Individuals
We tend to believe in the value of following certain rules.
But which? And why?
Sometimes we sense that a rule is not right for us. It's disturbing. We wonder if we can change ourselves. Or maybe we should change the rules. No matter what, we think we need to be able to explain it clearly. But what if you don't have a tidy explanation, a clear timeline, or a case you could defend to a jury? You just know, in your body, with integrity. And the more you ignore that knowing, the louder your body gets. Then what?
Book a consult.
No, but really…
I believe we have an ethical obligation to trust in our own knowing, even when we can't find any words. I bring a framework of applied ethics rooted in equality and the inherent trustworthiness of the body's signals. The ethically sound choice may require disobedience. I'm a trusted companion to help you discern what is ethically sound, and help you see why you actually are worth trusting. Once we’re done, you can handle any disobedience without feeling like you did something wrong.
Radically Embodied
No matter what you have been through in this life, you still get to / deserve to have a happy, healthy relationship with your body and sexuality. This is not about whether you are partnered or if you’re having a bad hair day.
This is about the ethics of embodiment. It is about rooting into a philosophy of life that says no to hustle culture or self improvement ad nauseam. It is about the moral value of self trust and choosing consciously to slow down and nourish a connection to yourself. A better experience of life in our body is certainly complex. But the answer is often promised as something elusive and “out there.” I’m here with a radically different view.
I am confident you already know the answer in your tissues. But getting to it requires you to let go first. Yes, it is a counter-cultural pursuit to slow down. It is also oddly rebellious to trust what your body is saying rather than treating yourself as lazy or undisciplined. When you begin to listen closely, your body might say things you don’t want to hear. But stick with it. There is joy and strength to be found in befriending the body you’re in.
This work can include helping you:
Recognize places where your life may be limiting pleasure
Legitimize your need for rest, alone time, and space
Introduce beauty and ritual into your daily life and commit to keeping it there
Weave time and pursuits into your life that are not performative or productive, but nourish you
Connect with an organic sense of yourself as an evolving part of nature, subject to the ebbs and flows of the seasons
Untangle what you actually enjoy from what you wonder if you're supposed to enjoy
Through the Looking Glass
Have you been told you are too shy, too blunt, too sensitive, or too much? Have you been called gifted but secretly wondered if the gift came with free returns?
Embracing our unique brains or identities (no labels required) can be life changing in such a good way. A fundamental shift can happen we stop seeing ourselves as a little "off" or chasing the myth of normal.
This service offers a fresh, values-aligned lens to re-examine your story outside the box but inside your value system and actual experience
This work can help you:
Re-evaluate your history through updated research on human variation
Gain clarity on your core needs once you radically own who you are
Look back at past situations with a clear, self-compassionate lens
Build a life that lets you finally be all of who you are — no squishing required
Unpack the toll of hiding yourself if you had to do so
Release self-judgment by anchoring your identity in the values of equality and self-trust
Divorce with Integrity
The reality of modern divorce is that most likely you were never the worst couple or the best couple. This crossroads emerges in real life. That means you could have a beautiful family, amazing children, and great experiences. You also might have always hated the way they loaded the dishwasher or wondered whether they could fully perceive the vastness of your soul.
Alas…There is a whole in-between place where most of life occurs. When you are a real, human adult with your own brain and body, you are likely to be an inexact match with the manual.
So instead of forcing yourself to choose between conscious uncoupling vs. suiting up for nuclear war, I offer you a space to acknowledge and work skillfully within the complexity of this process.
This can include helping you:
Examine stereotypes regarding divorce vs. modern research to come to a more accurate view of its impact on kids and future happiness
Normalize the intensity of this transition in a way that does not ask you to put it in a store-bought frame
Leave space for your feelings about this change to inform how you navigate the divorce without completely letting go of the wheel
Keep your kids in center view with a big-picture perspective, rooted in an ethical frame
Sort through options to find an attorney who has a nuanced appreciation of relationships and will not default to being disrespectful about your ex
Use the tools needed (legal, financial, logistical) in a way that fits your core values
Splitting can honor growth and even enhance it for everyone. In fact, you can still be a family. You just need a bigger frame.
Embrace your Vastness
If you have a V.A.S.T. brain — variable attention stimulus trait — you already know what it feels like to move through institutions, medical systems, and workplaces that were not built for you. This work is about navigating systems that don’t fit without seeing yourself as the wrong shape. I offer camaraderie and expertise to sort through this complexity together.
This work can help you:
Identify and select aligned providers and professionals
Communicate your needs without having to chronicle supposed shortcomings
Navigate institutional policies that imply you are a risk
Feel better without having to perform productivity as proof of wellbeing
Build renewed trust in your own cues, timing, and capacity
Unlearn the idea that you are chaotic or can't trust yourself
Release any lingering sense that there is a better way to be than the way you are
Parenting a Kid from the Future
There is a strong cultural insistence on viewing chronological age as an indicator of, well, everything.
But many young people today require more time, more solitude, or a different timeline than their parents or teachers expect. Some show a natural resistance to hustle culture or linear paths. Many are beautifully attached to their families even as they become young adults. The tyranny of linearity can emerge as judgment of that attachment. Why?
Humans are wired for interdependence. The specific shape a family takes can and does shift across human history — the shape matters less than the love within it. Cultural expectations around family are not fixed and can be updated. This work looks honestly at your family, with a focus on self-trust and living with integrity.
There is no one magic (linear?) path for every kid, adult, or family. Let's honor your child's intelligence, dignity, and embodied needs as a truth to celebrate. Then see how we can build something that fits, even if it’s not straight and narrow.
This work can help you:
Reframe non-traditional paths as coherent and certified ethical ;)
Understand how your child's gifts and needs stem from the exact same embodied root
Leave room to breathe around pressure to meet expected benchmarks
Maintain your strong connection to your child despite pressure to be or do otherwise
Navigate advocating for your family in places without a map
Anchor decisions in an ethical framework that is yours, outside any external frame
Prefer Not to Say
Do you find it easy to see the boxes that don't fit but can't find any that do?
Wanting to be seen and understood for who we are is a fundamental human need, yet rigid social categories often make that clarity feel elusive. When pre-set labels fail to capture your lived experience, it is easy to wonder if you are the one out of alignment.
Complexity inside identity, relationships, and how we think and feel can make us feel like we have to squish ourselves to get into a box near our friends. But we are allowed to live unboxed and don't need to pass a test to prove ourselves. Complexity can set up shop inside clarity and get mighty comfortable. Working with an ethicist offers a wide-angle, values-based environment to examine how to work around rigid expectations, root into self-trust, and create breathing room outside of social sorting mechanisms.
This work can help you:
Step away from standard, pre-set options. Ask for the specials.
Question why ways of being require certain labels to be recognized as valid
Allow yourself to change over time without worrying about lack of coherence
Build habits, daily rituals, and relationships that reflect your truth and depth
Relate to yourself and others as whole people first, not categories
Acknowledge how hard it is to live in a world that loves to sort — and start changing those patterns in your own corner
No Place Like Home
Almost no one has a family that fits on a greeting card. Most of us are navigating something more complicated — love and exhaustion coexisting, obligations that feel more cultural than chosen, traditions that no longer fit who we actually are.
This is not about processing your feelings. It is about applying a wide-angle ethical lens to the underlying dynamics of family expectations — and trusting that your integrity outweighs the pull of tradition alone.
Sometimes the most coherent choice is a new tradition. Sometimes it is rest and solitude that does not need to be justified to be enjoyed. Sometimes it is a clear and deliberate separation. You get to decide — and you do not need a ten-page thesis to explain why you are not going to Thanksgiving.
This work can help you:
Distinguish between ethical obligations you genuinely want to honor and cultural pressure to override your own signals
Examine the guilt or social ostracism that can accompany family distance through a values-aligned lens that doesn't jump to judgment
Evaluate choices around contact through an ethics of embodiment and self-trust — no excuses needed
Build a new framework for future decisions anchored in your own integrity, even when it sounds unusual to others
Details & Rates
Rate: $200 per session includes written recap and next steps. Multi-session packages available
Format: In-person in Hanover, NH, or online worldwide.
Billing:
Invoices are sent digitally via secure link (all major cards accepted) after our session
Tailored attorney-crafted agreement will be formalized before we begin via e-sign.
Confidentiality guaranteed.
Money &
Radical Work
This enterprise is rooted in the idea that individuals can help evolve unhelpful frameworks when they no longer serve. The way we exchange money for support — or experience money and power — is a place where I want to see more change. A lot more.
I am an independent consultant, so I need resources to support this work. I also have a deep commitment to connecting with clients for whom this frame fits just right. That is the why.
The how emerges when we try being open to what is possible. So if you are drawn to this work, don't stay away because of financial constraints or think I can work without a fee.
Let’s figure out a radically different plan. (See what I did there?). Perhaps we can evolve the framework so it fits what everyone needs.
Now that's Love & Moxie in action!